11 Oct 08 Gagging during oral sex…?
Okay, I tried oral sex on my boyfriend for the first time a couple of nights ago. But I found that I have a really really weak gag reflex. So, when I would “go in”, I would always start gagging. I really don’t wanna throw up cause that would be really embarrassing…can anybody give me any tips? Should I breathe a certain way or something?
Let’s start off by saying - you’re not alone. A lot of people complain of having ‘too strong’ of a gag reflex, which can get in the way of enjoying oral sex.
But let’s think about other things it could be as well.
- How far did you try to put the penis into your mouth? If you tried to deep throat him, that’s probably not the best way to get started. Next time, start with just an inch of the penis in your mouth. Then the next time you give oral sex, increase the amount of penis in your mouth a bit more. The next time more, etc. This way, you don’t feel overwhelmed.
- How nervous were you? - If you’re really nervous about oral sex, that’s going to increase your chances of gagging. Instead, take things slow and easy. If you push yourself too far, you will always associate giving head with negative feelings.
- Did you breathe? - Some women confuse feeling light headed with being nauseous. Make sure you are breathing through your mouth and nose as much as you can when you are giving a blowjob. Yes, this can be tricky, but it is possible. If your nose is clear, you should be able to breathe no problem.
Other tips include:
- Once you feel like you’re going to gag, stop what you’re doing and wait for the feeling to pass. It will pass if you don’t push yourself too far. And the more you begin to calm down, the less likely that feeling is to return.
- Try giving oral sex to a dildo. Practicing on your own can help you see what you need to do once you have a ‘live’ penis in your mouth.
Some women never get over that nauseous feeling, so if you’re one, learn to perfect your handjob techniques! There’s always an alternative, after all.
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25 Sep 08 Hot…New Oral Sex Ideas - How to Give Oral Sex
What are some good tips for giving oral sex?
My husband and I have been together for 8 years. There is NOTHING that we haven’t done! I always tell him that “I’ll try anything once, twice if I like it” and I stick by that 120% 
Anyhow, he love getting oral sex from me and I was wondering if there are any SPECIAL tricks that will knock him off his feet! Please let me know your secrets!
First of all, I don’t think you need to hear this, but the best advice anyone can use in relation to blowjobs is to have fun. You should be enthusiastic when you’re down there – your man will appreciate it. If you’re just bobbing your head up and down while looking at the clock, chances are he’s going to realize you’re not into it.
Okay, you have the enthusiasm down, but what about the ‘tease’? Most women who are used to their partner’s body will just go for the blow and follow a regular routine until their partner cums. Sure, it’s effective, but what fun is that? Instead, make things a little bit more exciting by teasing your partner. Bring him to the edge of orgasm, then take your lips off his penis and move somewhere else on his body. When he’s calmed back down, then go back to sucking. Repeat until he starts to beg you to finish him off.
Don’t forget that the penis isn’t the only thing involved in a blowjob. Look for his scrotum and gently (emphasis on the gently, unless he’s into the hard stuff) massage and stroke this area as you suck or stroke his penis. This is going to feel amazing to him, but it will also keep him good and hard – and it will keep you from getting too fatigued.
Change up the strokes you use and try different kinds of pressure too as you are moving up and down his cock. This is going to create different sensations and help him enjoy every second all the more.
A fun tip? Try a vibrating cock ring. Now, not every guy likes these, but why not give it a whirl. That vibration combined with the sucking and caressing can be mind blowing. Look in the cock section of your local sex toy shop or online store to find other goodies to try out.
I’m sure your man won’t mind.
Tags: blowjobs, Fellatio, how to give oral sex, oral sex
