Bacterial Vaginosis

Bacterial vaginosis is an infection in the vagina.  The vagina is a very sensitive area, so any disruption in its balance of bacteria can turn into an icky mess of discharge, pain, or odor.

If you don’t go to a doctor, BV can clear up without treatment, but this is not always the case.  There are many possible complications that can occur if you simply let BV go untreated:

• In pregnant women especially, BV can increase your chances of a preterm delivery, low birth weight baby, etc.

• BV can increase your chances of an infection during a reproductive procedure like a hysterectomy or an abortion.

In terms of BV’s relationship to STDs, that’s a great question to ask.

Here’s what you should know.  If untreated, bacterial vaginosis can:

• Increase your chances of getting HIV from an infected partner.
• Increase your chances of being infected with gonorrhea, Chlamydia, and HPV.

Without treatment, the BV weakens your ability to fight off STD viruses as your body is trying to fight that infection instead.

The best course of action is to get treatment immediately if you suspect you have BV or have had BV.  Your doctor can check to make sure you’re ‘clear’ to go for sex.

Of course, you are using protection, right?  Healthy or not, you need to protect yourself and your partner.

How to give a good Blow Job!

Okay, first of all, let’s have a little talk – you did ask your guy if he’s been tested for STDs, right? Yes? Good, let’s move on.

Lockjaw happens when your muscle works harder than it’s used to working and thus it spasms and contracts – ouch. So, the main way to prevent lockjaw is to exercise the muscle often so as to be in ’shape’ for oral sex.

Since your guy probably doesn’t want you practicing oral sex on everyone you know, you need a few other alternative ways to prevent lockjaw from happening.

Start slowly – There’s no need to rush oral sex anyway, but when you start slowly, you can work your muscles in a calm and controlled manner, allowing your muscles to stay loose.

Relax – If you’re tensing your muscles as you go up and down, you will cramp up. Keep breathing and focus on keeping your jaw as relaxed as possible.

Take breaks – Don’t keep your mouth on his rod the whole time. Move up and down and then switch things up. This will keep him excited and you pain free.

Now, if you have a small mouth that’s prone to lockjaw, it might take you a while to ‘teach’ your muscles how to relax, but it can be done.

Just have fun and don’t even think about lockjaw in the first place. Chances are good that if you don’t think about it, you won’t have any troubles with it.

STDs?

First of all, let me tell you this – this is not a common occurrence after oral sex, so you’re right to be concerned.  There are few things it could be.  Have you ever had this reaction before?  If not, it might not be related to the semen at all.  It might just be that your skin was already irritated for some reason and the semen just set off a little reaction.

It might also just be a zit outbreak.

But what it sounds like is that it might be herpes.  Yes, you read that right.  Even if he didn’t have sores, you can still get the herpes virus from your partner.  I would hope you talked with him first about whether or not he was ‘clean’?

In any case, it’s a good idea to get yourself to a doctor.  Chances are good that it’s nothing at all.  Rashes can happen at any time, for no reason at all.  Most of them just clear up and go away forever.

But since this happened after sex and it seems to be an isolated incident, it’s probably best to get yourself checked out – and talk with your man about whether he’s been tested for STDs lately.

Good luck!

Blow Jobs?

This question comes up (no pun intended) so often.

Men have some sort of perception that women don’t like to give blowjobs, but this is far from the truth.  True, some women don’t like to give blowjobs and if you try to push them into liking to do the deed, they’re going to hate giving oral sex all the more.  But that makes sense, doesn’t it?

First of all, let’s not assume that women don’t like to give blowjobs.  Many do, and many more want to enjoy giving oral sex more, but they might not know what they’re doing or they might have had a bad experience in the past.

To make things more enjoyable for her, you need to be patient.  Don’t expect most women to go down on you with a smile on their face.  Instead, when she does want to give you a blowjob, make sure you’re doing everything you can to make it more pleasant for everyone.

Make sure you’re cleaned up - That’s right, take a shower or at least wipe down your penis before a blowjob.

Show her what to do - If you can show a woman what to do, she will see what makes you feel good and what they can do to get you off.  If that isn’t motivation to give blowjobs, nothing is.

Never force her - If you push on a girl’s head or you make her feel guilty for not wanting to give you a blowjob, that’s not going to make her enjoy it when the event does occur.

Yes, it is possible for a woman to enjoy a blowjob, but it’s not the favorite event of many women, so instead of thinking of it as a “She has to like it” part of your sex life, think about it as something you can work together on in order to make your sex life as full as possible.

She may never like it, but you can certainly make sure she doesn’t hate it either.