11 Oct 08 Gagging during oral sex…?
Okay, I tried oral sex on my boyfriend for the first time a couple of nights ago. But I found that I have a really really weak gag reflex. So, when I would “go in”, I would always start gagging. I really don’t wanna throw up cause that would be really embarrassing…can anybody give me any tips? Should I breathe a certain way or something?
Let’s start off by saying - you’re not alone. A lot of people complain of having ‘too strong’ of a gag reflex, which can get in the way of enjoying oral sex.
But let’s think about other things it could be as well.
- How far did you try to put the penis into your mouth? If you tried to deep throat him, that’s probably not the best way to get started. Next time, start with just an inch of the penis in your mouth. Then the next time you give oral sex, increase the amount of penis in your mouth a bit more. The next time more, etc. This way, you don’t feel overwhelmed.
- How nervous were you? - If you’re really nervous about oral sex, that’s going to increase your chances of gagging. Instead, take things slow and easy. If you push yourself too far, you will always associate giving head with negative feelings.
- Did you breathe? - Some women confuse feeling light headed with being nauseous. Make sure you are breathing through your mouth and nose as much as you can when you are giving a blowjob. Yes, this can be tricky, but it is possible. If your nose is clear, you should be able to breathe no problem.
Other tips include:
- Once you feel like you’re going to gag, stop what you’re doing and wait for the feeling to pass. It will pass if you don’t push yourself too far. And the more you begin to calm down, the less likely that feeling is to return.
- Try giving oral sex to a dildo. Practicing on your own can help you see what you need to do once you have a ‘live’ penis in your mouth.
Some women never get over that nauseous feeling, so if you’re one, learn to perfect your handjob techniques! There’s always an alternative, after all.
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05 Oct 08 How to Give a Blow Job ? ?
Question: I have done most things , but i have always been unsure about this . i have been told several different things . so i just want to clear it up really.
Just as there are millions of different snowflakes, no blowjob is the same. First of all, no two men are the same, which means every guy likes something different and will want different techniques from a blow job.
There is no ‘right’ way, which is why you’re confused by all the different things you’ve been told. They’re probably all right for those individual guys and situations.
That said, here are some basic things to keep in mind when giving a blowjob:
- Start by licking the penis on all sides and the top to help give yourself some lubrication. This is going to help you move along the penis in a much more comfortable way for him and for you.
- Slowly put your mouth around the tip of the penis and begin to move down the shaft as far as is comfortable. Repeat up and down movements.
- Keep your teeth behind your lips so as not to scratch your man.
Those are the basics.
You need to try out different things for your partner or just ask him what he likes. No sense in wasting your time, right? Some guys like women to move faster, while other guys like it slow and easy.
If you have troubles getting your mouth around the whole shaft of the penis, that’s okay. Just use a hand to make up for the rest - it will still feel good to him.
You might also want to grab his scrotum (gently) and massage the balls as you are moving up and down on his penis.
Other great things to try: humming as you suck, switching from your mouth on the penis to your hand on his penis if your jaw gets tired, rotating your mouth on the penis, trying to deep throat or take in as much of his penis as you can, etc.
In the end, you’re going to have to listen to your guy to see how good of a time he’s having. If he’s not complaining, you’re doing it right.
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